forgiveness.

In The Name Of Allah, The Most Beneficent, The Most Merciful.

i've been thinking of what shud i name this post. all i could think about is, "people". and i was like, hey, didn't i named my post "manusia" few days back. hoho, i seriously have issues with the people, huh? heh.

ignore the first line, it's just something random. i just want to share with you something that i've witness in my life recently.

can you imagine, a teenage girl, shouting to her mother because she thinks that her mother is annoying? my heart felt like it was going to burst, and my eyes started to tear.

do you think your mother is annoying?

if you answered no, you might not have encountered with this problem yet. as our parents grow old, they tend to forget things, so they might ask the same question over and over again.

we'd answered the first time nicely, and when they ask again, we started to raise our voice. masyaAllah, that, people, are one of the forbidden things to do. God has taught us to NEVER raise your voice to the our parents. and then they ask, again and again, and we, the youngsters, hot-blooded start to shout back the answers. oh Lord, how terrible would that be. 

let me remind you once again, you can never ever complaint that your parents are annoying. you don't remember back then when you were in diapers, you poop, eat, sleep, cry MOST of the time and tell me, isn't that soooo annoying? who took care of you? your mother, who stayed up all night, to make sure you didn't have mosquito bites on you. your dad, who woke up every single time he heard you cries. yes, your parents. and tell me for how long they had put up for your so called "rebellious" behavior? they have done so much for you. and you dare to think that your parents are annoying? bravo.

don't even let me get started to those who send off their folks to the elderly home. 

i admitted, i have shouted to my parents, unintentionally. i was tired, angry with some other people and then my dad did something that i didn't like and the anger was burst out to him. it's unfair, and when i finally calmed down, i felt so guilty, i apologized to him. but i didn't have the guts to tell him personally, so i just left him a text message. (he went out after the incident) and i was so relieved, but at the same time, amazed that he told me that he didn't blame me at all. he had forgiven me. i didn't feel like i deserved such forgiveness, compared to what have i done to him. 

no matter how much damages you have done to your folks, they will still miss you and will be willing to forgive you. no matter how much it hurts them to hear that their own child said their parents are dead, they still hope for the best for you.

if you can imagine how much love & forgiveness parents could give to their children, why can't you imagine how amazing the Almighty's one of the greatest characteristics? The Forgiver. 

there's is a saying that says "you'd never give forgiveness to the people who deserves it". but do forgive, for God likes people who are forgiving. another saying that says, "forgiving someone doesn't always means they deserve it but it means that you value your relationship more than your ego". forgive is to forget, but i know it's not easy to forget. but if you really look into life the way you should, you shouldn't keep such grudges. remember, keeping grudges would kill you. literally. heehe. 

and songs that goes, "forgiveness, it's more than saying sorry.." which is quite true. say it, mean it, live to it. and "sorry seems to be the hardest word" is true when you actually mean what you say. i have known some people who loves to use the word sorry way too often, till i don't even think that they are truly sorry. and i started not to believe them.

and when you did something wrong to God, i believe if you try and sincerely apologize to Him (pray, stop the wrongdoings, taubat) He may forgive you one day for he is the Most Forgiver. but when you did something wrong to someone, pray to God he/she will forgives you because human has way too much ego to actually forgive someone.

according to a brother who gave a khutbah in US, when someone tested your patience, pls compare your anger with the anger of Abu Bakar As-Siddiq when his daughter got accused of zina by a man who Abu Bakar As-Siddiq has been giving allowance to. what Abu Bakar As-Siddiq did was, discontinuing the allowance. just that. mashaAllah, so much patience he had there. i think if that happens in today's generation, the man is a dead meat! 

so, pls, think of these as the challenges that God gives to us, as an opportunity to be closer to Heaven.

and all these are reminders for myself and everyone out there.

i've finally found the perfect title. =)

PS : sorry, i always got carried away when it comes to things like this. initially i just wanted to point out about the girl and the mom incident. huhu.